S Janaki's granddaughter Apsara Vydyula: Don't judge my grief by my tears
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Apsara Vydyula, granddaughter of legendary playback singer S Janaki, has responded to public criticism over her visible composure during her grandmother's passing, urging people not to measure her love by the tears they do or do not see. In a heartfelt post shared on her Instagram page, Apsara offered a rare and deeply personal window into her family's grief — and into the spiritual framework her grandmother had instilled in her.
The Post That Silenced the Critics
Addressing those who questioned her grief because she did not appear visibly tearful, Apsara wrote: Please don't measure my love for my grandmother by the tears you do or do not see. We were taught, especially by her, to understand death from a deeply spiritual place. She taught us that love does not end when a life does.
She added: My experiences have made me stronger than I ever wished I had to be. Grief is not always loud. Sometimes it is quiet, steady and deeply personal.
The Shadow of a Prior Loss
Central to Apsara's post was a tribute to her elder sister Varsha, who passed away in August 2023. According to Apsara, Varsha shared a uniquely close bond with S Janaki — one that transcended ordinary family ties.
My grandmother's favourite person in the world was my elder sister, Varsha. They were so alike. They understood each other in a way that words could never fully explain,
she wrote. Apsara acknowledged that Varsha was the one who should have been standing where I am today, taking care of our grandmother.
The family, she said, has never truly recovered from that loss.
Who S Janaki Really Was
Apsara used the post to paint a portrait of S Janaki beyond her legendary voice — describing her as gentle, kind, deeply humble and completely free of judgement.
She said her grandmother saw the good in everyone
and, like Varsha, carried an infectious childlike spirit
that drew people to her instantly.
Notably, Apsara also pushed back against the burden of public scrutiny that comes with being part of a celebrated family. It can be painful to watch people form opinions about a family they have never truly known,
she wrote, pointing out that living in the public eye often meant navigating rumours and speculation.
Finding Peace in Reunion
Apsara closed her message with a thought she said brought her comfort: that S Janaki and Varsha — two souls she described as made for each other — are now together again. They are together now. And somehow, that thought brings me peace,
she wrote.
The post has drawn widespread empathy online, with many admirers of S Janaki expressing solidarity with the family as they navigate a grief that is, by Apsara's own telling, both layered and long-standing.