Zeenat Aman on live-in relationships: 'You choose to be, not because you have to'
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Key Takeaways
Veteran actress Zeenat Aman has long been one of Bollywood's most candid voices, and her appearance on the celebrated chat show 'Rendezvous with Simi Garewal' remains one of the more memorable examples of that frankness. Speaking openly with host Simi Garewal, Aman articulated a clear and considered case for live-in relationships — a position that was, and arguably still is, ahead of mainstream Indian social discourse.
What Zeenat Aman Said About Marriage
When the conversation turned to her personal life and future plans, Aman was unequivocal. 'I don't think I will ever get married again. And I definitely won't have any more children,' she told Garewal. Asked whether she was content living as a single woman, the Satyam Shivam Sundaram star pushed back on the framing itself — arguing that the binary between 'married' and 'single' was a false one.
'Am I happy being single. See, you have to qualify being single as opposed to being married. You can have a relationship without being married. I never want to get married again,' she explained. For Aman, the absence of a marriage certificate did not diminish the depth or legitimacy of a relationship.
On Impermanence and Self-Reliance
Aman grounded her views in personal loss, invoking the deaths of her mother and former husband Mazhar Khan, who passed away at just 42 years old. The experiences shaped a philosophy centred on impermanence. 'What is permanent in this life? There's nothing that's permanent. Why should we assume that any relationship is going to be permanent? Your children are not yours. They're going to grow up and go away and have their own lives,' she said.
Notably, she pointed to the relationship one has with oneself as the only truly dependable one — a perspective rooted not in cynicism, but in lived experience of grief and change.
Why She Believes Live-In Relationships Carry More Respect
The actress made a pointed distinction between relationships built on choice versus those sustained by obligation. 'I think that there is more respect in a relationship when it is not bound by, you know, signatures and tradition and laws and rules. You are with each other because you want to be and because you choose to be, not because you have to be. And there's no question of taking each other for granted,' she said.
Aman also offered a candid reflection on her own marriage, suggesting that being taken for granted was a defining feature of that experience. 'I think that's what happened to me in my marriage. I was completely taken for granted,' she concluded.
The Broader Context
Aman's remarks, made on one of Indian television's most-watched celebrity interview formats, carried particular weight given her stature in Hindi cinema. This comes amid a broader generational conversation in India around relationship norms, legal recognition of live-in partnerships, and personal autonomy — debates that have only intensified in the years since the interview aired. Her willingness to speak from personal experience, rather than abstraction, gave the argument a grounded authenticity that few public figures have matched on this subject.