Sunil Dutt on sending Sanjay Dutt to boarding school: 'He was getting so much love'
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Veteran actor and politician Sunil Dutt once revealed the deeply personal reasoning behind his decision to send his son Sanjay Dutt to a boarding school — a choice rooted, he said, not in distance but in love and the desire to build discipline. The candid disclosure came during an appearance on Farooq Shaikh's celebrated celebrity chat show, 'Jeena Isi Ka Naam Hai', where Sunil also shared a childhood anecdote about Sanjay that moved him profoundly.
Why Sunil Dutt Made the Decision
When the show's host asked about the reasoning behind the boarding school choice, Sunil Dutt explained it plainly: 'He was getting so much love. And love means that we were thinking that he shouldn't get spoiled. And a discipline that happens in boarding schools. But there were also good things in it, which I will definitely say.'
The statement captures a tension many parents recognise — that unconditional affection, without structure, can sometimes work against a child's character. For Sunil, the boarding school was a deliberate intervention, not an act of rejection.
The Jacket Incident That Stayed With Sunil
Among the 'good things' Sunil alluded to was a childhood memory from a winter visit to Delhi for a family wedding. Sanjay's mother had gifted him a warm jacket for the trip. Outside the venue, the young Sanjay spotted a boy shivering in the cold — and refused to eat or settle until he could do something about it.
In Sunil's own words: 'His mother asked him, What's the matter? Why don't you eat? He says, No, Mama, there is a boy outside. He is feeling very cold. And I want to give my jacket to him. So, I went with him myself. I said, Who do you want to give it to? He gave the jacket to the boy. And he wrapped it around his mother's shawl. I really liked these things in it. In childhood, this kind of feeling is a very big thing.'
Sunil added, with a note of both pride and mild exasperation: 'But his style of spoiling. That once something comes to his mind. That I have to do this. Then no one can stop him.' The anecdote offered a rare, unguarded portrait of Sanjay Dutt as a child — empathetic, impulsive, and single-minded.
A Father-Son Bond Tested and Strengthened
Sanjay Dutt has spoken on multiple occasions about the complex yet deeply meaningful relationship he shared with his father. Their bond weathered significant strain during Sanjay's younger years, marked by his well-documented struggle with addiction and prolonged legal battles. Through each of those phases, Sunil Dutt remained a steadfast presence — a source of both accountability and unconditional support.
Sunil also played a direct role in launching his son's film career, directing Sanjay's debut, 'Rocky', in 1981. The film marked the beginning of what would become one of Hindi cinema's most enduring careers.
Sunil Dutt: Actor, Father, Public Servant
Sunil Dutt passed away on 25 May 2005 at the age of 74, at his Mumbai residence following a suspected cardiac arrest. His legacy spans decades of memorable performances — most notably in 'Mother India' and 'Munna Bhai M.B.B.S.' — as well as a distinguished public service career. He served as a Member of Parliament and later as Union Minister for Youth Affairs and Sports.
The 'Jeena Isi Ka Naam Hai' episode remains one of the more intimate windows into the Dutt family's private world — and into the thoughtful, if unconventional, parenting philosophy of one of Indian cinema's most respected figures.