What Does Actress Vijayalakshmi Regret the Most in Life?

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Key Takeaways
- Vijayalakshmi's tribute highlights the importance of mental health awareness.
- Understanding and supporting loved ones during tough times is crucial.
- Breaking societal norms can often lead to personal struggles.
- Honoring and remembering loved ones in a way that reflects their true spirit is important.
- Families should foster open discussions about emotions and mental health.
Chennai, May 12 (NationPress) Actress Vijayalakshmi, the daughter of National Award-winning director Agathiyan, has shared a heartfelt tribute to her mother, revealing the one significant regret in her life.
On Mother's Day, Vijayalakshmi took to Instagram to express her emotions about her mother.
She wrote, "My Mom was a GOAT. One morning, that teenage girl decided to change her name from Ramuthavee to Radha, claiming the old name felt outdated. A rebellious spirit who shattered norms, she aspired to become an IAS officer. After completing her MA, she diligently prepared for the exam but struggled with the General Knowledge section. Boom. Life took a turn."
Highlighting her mother as the firstborn in a middle-class police family, Vijayalakshmi stated, "Big sister to six siblings. Had her own room while the others shared. Treated like a queen. Then my father arrived. She fell for a man with wild cinematic dreams, but her family disapproved. She eloped. That's what rebels do."
Vijayalakshmi mentioned that her father also treated her mother like royalty, saying, "But then, life happened. After three daughters and years of hardship, she was compelled to forget who she was. While Appa kept banging on iron doors in the film industry, Amma became everything: salesgirl, kindergarten teacher, hustler, provider. Caught in the whirlwind, their marriage wasn't easy either. Amma was enigmatic during our childhood, often on edge, shouting, irritated like a storm. We despised that phase."
She continued, "Then came what we three kids secretly called 'Amma good mummy aagitanga.' She became silent. No yelling, no shouting; just quiet. She wouldn’t leave the house or meet anyone. Even if we broke something, she would clean it up silently, without a glance. We cherished her like that."
"But now I realize that silence wasn’t peace. That silence was bipolar depression. What we celebrated as calm was her soul locking itself away," the actress revealed.
"My 'I don't care about grammar' attitude came from her. She was a hippie, wild and free. She wasn't prepared for motherhood or for being the wife of a struggling AD. Yet she managed. She buried her wild spirit and wore a mask," the actress noted, adding, "I have no regrets in life, except for one thing."
"Now, I'm filled with abundance. I heal others with my positivity, counsel strangers in my DMs, and create space for those in need. I listen and comfort. But I couldn't heal her," she lamented. "She fought her battles alone and left with questions. If I had been a little older, a little more aware, maybe I could have helped her. Maybe I could have hugged her tightly instead of celebrating her painful silence."
The actress stated that she doesn’t pray to her mother for things. "I just envision her somewhere in 'la la land,' under a golden sunset, with messy hair, singing loud and dancing freely. I've stopped calling her 'Mom.' Now, I call her 'Hippie girl.' That girl did her best in this world. Probably kicking ass as an IAS (hippie) officer in a parallel universe. Happy Mother's Day, my hippie girl. The world broke you, but I see every piece, and guess what... I love them all," she concluded.