Farah Khan on the sandwich generation: raising triplets while caring for parents
Synopsis
Key Takeaways
Filmmaker Farah Khan has opened up about the emotional and physical demands of being part of the 'sandwich generation' — a life stage in which individuals simultaneously shoulder caregiving responsibilities for both their children and their ageing parents. The candid reflection, shared alongside photos with her three children, has resonated widely for its honesty and warmth.
What Farah Khan Said
In a heartfelt social media post, Farah wrote: 'Me with my three Im part of the sandwich generation.. at that age when we either are caregivers to our parents or to our kids.. sandwiched in between! One day these three will be sandwiched too, looking after me, n their kids. Im not being dramatic, thats just what it is, n frankly good luck to them because im going to be a nightmare.'
The filmmaker did not stop at personal reflection. She turned her message outward, shining a light on the invisible labour of caregivers who rarely receive acknowledgment. 'Today, if u look after someone u love, u do it with nothing. Nobody asking how ur holding up, because everybody is asking about the patient, n quite rightly. We don't think about these people much. We just say shes a good daughter, hes a devoted son. As if its a personality trait n not the hardest job either of them will ever do,' she wrote.
A Message to Her Children
Farah expressed a clear wish: that her children grow up to recognise and actively support the people who give their all for others. 'I dont want that to be what my children inherit. Id like them to ask the person doing the caring how they are,' she said, adding that even a small gesture — 'one question, or even a little hug of acknowledgment' — can make a profound difference.
She also noted that the reflection was prompted by a film by @mrmedhq, which she encouraged her followers to share with anyone who needs to feel seen. 'This is for all the caregivers, the pure souls out there putting everyone else first.. hope ur ok n taken care of too,' she added.
About Farah Khan's Family
Farah Khan and her husband, filmmaker Shirish Kunder, are parents to triplets born in February 2008 through in vitro fertilisation (IVF). The couple's journey to parenthood was itself a story of perseverance, and Farah has spoken openly about it on several occasions over the years.
Why This Conversation Matters
The sandwich generation is a growing demographic reality in India, where nuclear families increasingly manage elder care without institutional support, even as they raise young children. Farah's post puts a recognisable face to a largely unspoken social pressure — and her call for small acts of acknowledgment toward caregivers reflects a broader cultural conversation about emotional labour and mental health that is only beginning to gain mainstream traction in the country.